We all hate change.
I’m hard pressed to find someone around me who enjoys it when their ‘normal’ routine is changed.
I personally hate it when things don’t go my way. If people were to look at my life without actually knowing me, they’d say they think I like change. My life has been a bunch of ups and downs and lefts and rights since the age of twenty (which is probably why I’m such an anxious person most times). While I can see why they think that, I’m here to say that I’m just as opposed to change as anyone else. That’s why I needed to start this blog in the first place.
It’s easy to get comfortable, especially with things that aren’t actually good for us.
I say all the time that I need to focus more on yoga and pilates, that I need to get back in shape, that I felt so much happier when I was in shape…yet, day after day, there seems to be a great excuse for allowing myself to stay stuck in this rut. Yes, I say allow myself because it doesn’t matter how busy you are, if you truly want to change something, you will.
I recently decided to do something pretty brave. I literally chopped all my hair off. Insert pre-quarter life crisis hair here :
Beautiful, I know.
Enter post-I need to do something NOW hair here:
Yes, I was trying to be funny in this picture, to mask the fact that I had a “What did I just do?!” moment after it was done.
This is the shortest my hair has ever been. And no, no one around me likes it. They don’t have to say it because their lack of saying anything at all speaks volumes. That was part of the reason why I was self-conscious about it at first. You know, that whole ‘I care what people think’ attitude was making its way out.
But I realized just a short time ago that I didn’t cut my hair to garner praise. I did it because I needed a change. I needed something different. My life was getting too stagnant, too devoted to children and home and ignoring myself. It sort of kicked me in the butt, this hair. It tells me all the time that I’m not my hair, or any other physical feature. I’m myself, body and soul. Take it or leave it. To truly enjoy life, you have to accept yourself. Even if I could pass for my mother with this hair.
But this post is about more than just hair.
While we all hate change, the reality is that change is necessary for growth. It keeps things moving, it keeps our minds thinking, it keeps our souls searching for what we’re truly meant to be. You can’t expect to be the best version of yourself if you’re unwilling to change.
The next time change is forced upon your life, before freaking out about how nothing ever goes right, think differently. I encourage you to stop and breathe. Listen to your breath and your heart. Think about what’s going on and try to put your trust into the universe, God or whatever you believe in.
There are larger plans at work here, and our lives are all entertwined with that. Whether or not you believe in fate or freewill, we all end up where we need to be.
STOP. BREATHE. LISTEN. FEEL.
Let me know what you think!